The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward
by Daniel H. Pink
View on GoodreadsRegret has a bad reputation, and the no-regrets creed tells you to ignore it. That said, Pink's case is that it's one of the most useful emotions you have. He builds it from more than 16,000 regrets gathered in 105 countries and a survey of 4,489 Americans.
Core ideas
- Four core regrets: Foundation, boldness, moral and connection regrets recur across the survey, and moral regrets are only about 10 percent but often the most painful.
- The emotion of if only: Regret is an upward counterfactual, so the discomfort you feel about the past is what helps you act better later.
- Put it to work: Reframing with at least, disclosing the regret, self-compassion and self-distancing make it usable, and anticipating regret sharpens your decisions.
Published2022
Pages239
ISBN9780735210653
ReadMay 2023
